Quick to Come -- She's Quick To Go

09/24/09
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Women are the true suffers from premature ejaculation. While it can be an embarrassing moment for men, they are not the ones left wanting. The statistics say that men reach their threshold for pleasure in half the time that it takes women. The female orgasm is complex. It requires the right mind set, arousal, stimulation and arousal. With an overwhelming amount of women being unable to achieve orgasm without clitoral or g-spot stimulation, the process of female orgasm becomes more complicated.

Unfortunately, the blame for female dissatisfaction lays heavy on the shoulders of men. Many sex experts (yes, this is an occupation) define premature ejaculation as ejaculation prior to the desires and wishes of both partners. Truth is, when you come before your partner it’s not as satisfying for you. Sure, it still feels good but there is a sense of guilt that you left your partner hanging in the fine balance between satisfaction, bliss and utter let down.

Don’t lose heart men, there are techniques that can help you to prolong ejaculation and ensure you never leave your lover left wanting her turn for orgasmic bliss.

One of the first techniques to prolong ejaculation is masturbation. Masturbation can be used a few different ways to help stop ejaculation occurring prematurely. First, you can masturbate with your partner in mind. Instead of having a marathon of strokes, slow it down. If you know that your partner takes 15 to 20 minutes to reach climax, than try to extend your personal play time to meet that time frame. If you can slow your expected ejaculation time by your own hand, you can also implement those steady techniques to ensure she reaches climax before or with you.

You can also masturbate to the point where you are close to coming, but then stop and apply pressure to the base of your penis to help slow the impulse to give in to the hands of orgasmic euphoria. After a pause from masturbation, you can begin again when you reach a point where you can masturbate without coming immediately. Excessive masturbation, however, can have a negative effect on the time it takes for you to come. Masturbation trains the body to be more responsive to physical sensation and sensitivity and teaches it how to reach orgasm easily.

Another way that masturbation can prolong your ejaculation time is to masturbate a few hours before having sex. This takes the pressure off the initial feeling and reduces some of the sensitivity for men, making it possible for you to prolong the sexual experience. There are also sexual enhancement products that help to desensitize the penis, which in result helps to prolong the experience.

Other methods for prolonging ejaculation include exercising the PC muscle (pubococcygeus muscles). The PC muscle is the same muscle that helps you stop and start the flow of your urine. In fact, one of the best ways to find your PC muscle is to stop the flow of your urine while going to the bathroom. You want to do this several times until you can clearly feel and tell which muscles you are contracting. The PC muscle has a lot of influence on your sexual experience. It controls the flow of semen as well as contributes to the firmness of your erection. Having control over these muscles helps to ensure you have better sex because you have more control over your orgasm. PC muscle exercises are similar to normal weight training. You want to do a number of sets with rest in between each set. You may start out by only clenching and holding your PC muscles for 5 seconds, releasing, resting and then repeating. You can increase the intervals that you hold the muscles. It’s important, like with any workout routine, that you do these exercises faithfully throughout the week. Having control of these muscles will not only help you control your orgasm, but also improve your erection strength and hardness.

A fun way to improve sexual longevity is through trying different positions. Different sexual positions can prolong ejaculation. Spending more time with foreplay will also help to get her more stimulated and aroused before penetration, possibly reducing the time she’ll need to reach climax. Positions where g-spot and clitoral stimulation are maximized also help to increase her enjoyment and take pressure off you. Missionary position is actually the most difficult position for men to prolong ejaculation. Positions where the woman is on top often take pressure off the man and offer optimum stimulation for her.

Positions:

Girl of Top—while there is still penetration, the majority of the stimulation is directed toward her clitoris and g-spot and not on what makes you orgasm.

Face to Face—while you are sitting on the end of the bed with your feet on the floor, she can sit on top and wrap her legs around you. Again, the stimulation is primarily focused on your partner. She can move along your erect penis and you can last longer as she enjoys stimulation.

Spoons—This position has both of you in the fetal position, with you in the back for rear entry. Again, stimulation is strongest for her. You can either thrust or she can reverse thrust. This position also opens up for clitoral stimulation by either you or your partner.

Men, it’s possible to save the romance and keep your partner from losing faith in your sexual performance. Premature ejaculation is not a lost cause, but can be remedied with positions, exercises, techniques and male enhancement products.