This Job Blows: His and Her views on Improving Oral Sex - His View

Executive Image International
10/2/09
Tags: blowjobs, oral sex, men

This Job Blows!

His and Her views on Improving Oral Sex

What would make oral sex better?

The premise is simple…Some male junk, or some lady bits, and a mouth combining to create arousal, stimulation, and perhaps climax. The idea may be simple in concept but the execution of the idea, well there in lies the “rub”. See there are some basic understandings that must be had before this combination of body parts can simply produce magic together.

Sex of any kind involves more than just body parts. There is a mental aspect that is multi-layered. In order to please a partner they have to believe that you are “down” with the task. So, if you are not in the mood to give it your best effort, then find another way to spend your time together. The old system of I’ll scratch yours if you scratch mine is well and good, but relationships are not always 50/50. Sometimes you have to give more than you get, and other times you are the beneficiary of a no strings attached treat of your own. A man wants to feel wanted and desired as much as a woman. Don’t make them feel as though this is work for you, on the contrary they should believe you are enjoying their body and enjoying the sensory stimulation you are providing. Another part of the mental game is the tease factor. Anticipation and arousal go together for males and females alike. So spend some time building things up. Take the time to explore with the mouth and tongue. Pay attention to the reactions you get; learn your lover’s likes and dislikes.

You have to talk. Not with your partner in your mouth (though humming vibrations can be stimulating.) Tell your partner what you are going to do. Find words that you both are comfortable with and give the other a pre-game description of how you are going to take them on. This will work two fold creating a moment and opening the line to communicate what works and what does not. You have to be able to express what feels good and direct your partner. People are not the same. Even the same person is different depending on the situation, so listen as well.

I’ve taken a bit of time to get here and some would question if this should not have been the foundation of any discussion on oral sex. How ever you do it: manscaping, trimming waxing, shaving, and simply cleaning the erogenous zones can only make things better.

Sure spontaneity can be thrilling, but if you truly want anyone spending some face time in your area a clear path and pleasant aroma will make them enjoy being there. Maybe you incorporate the act of preparing to help set the mood.

Finally, they call them blowjobs, when in reality very little blowing takes place. The warmth of a lover’s breath can be exhilarating, but this act needs more than one trick to make it a success. Remember that variety is the spice of life and be willing to mix up your approach. Use your tongue as well as your mouth and give yourself a hand. Add in some “props” to create flavors and sensations. Ice, whipped cream, honey, chocolate, menthol, mint, and even pop rocks can play a role in better oral sex.