A Message For My Wife (sort of but not really honey)

You have routines. The kids have dance/soccer/hockey/music practice the same times every week. You have to be at work/school the same time daily.  Take the trash down to the curb on Monday night.  Go to the bank on Wednesday.  Have lunch with a friend once a month.  Get a haircut every four weeks.  Yet for all the structure and planning we put into just existing or getting by, something can be said for spontaneity and variety. It is easy to be consumed by the routines and let them dominate our lives.  Some times you have to remind yourself (or your partner) that there are options.     
 

You don’t always feel like hearing the same song, eating the same food or beverage, and shocking as it may be you can be turned on in different ways at different times.  The very variety you seek out in trying to decide what is for lunch or what music fits your mood can seep into your intimate life as well.   That spur of the moment quickie in the bath room can help break up the routine and make sex seem for organic rather than a scheduled meeting on Tuesdays after 9 but before 10.  Find the time and energy to put some effort into your sex life.  After all it is yours and can be a rewarding part of your life as well as your partners. 

Not every encounter has to be a six hour scenario but you can improve interest levels by keeping things fresh and exciting on multiple levels.  Change the location you do the deed from time to time take it outside for a real change.  Incorporate toys or props into the mix. Dress up we all have various preferred sexy looks. Learn them and use them.  Talk the talk: meaning use your sexy voice and find those erotic hot words that help light the fire and speak them.   Try some light bondage with silk scarves or ties. Perhaps work in a spanking, or maybe a pinch or two.  The bottom line is to indulge yourself and your partner by embracing the many facets of your sexuality.  Using some creativity and passion to help keep the bond between you and your partner connected. 

*this piece got its title after my wife read it and thought it was directed at her.